I remember turning 20 and thinking how many things I would achieve before 30. I was picturing myself with a husband, a few kids, a beautiful house, a successful career and many more. And then, time passed as I quickly realized things would be different for me.
My parents have always been a great example for me. They got married at 22, had me by 24, left Romania to start a new life in Canada and are now living happily ever after (get the picture?). I was raised with my future already written and although I tried very hard to follow this path, my life decisions took me in a different place.
When I first saw the movie The Expiry Date by SK-II, I couldn’t help but being very emotional. Although our cultures are very different, I was totally seeing myself in the three actresses. It’s all fun and games until the big 3-0 is across the corner and suddenly everything changes. The stress and the struggle of feeling judged by the others while not being here or there in life is terrifying. Truth is, our generation is nothing compared to our parent’s. We love to live, to explore, to risk without no fear of time. Whatever path was ideal in the past is now divided in a multitude of possible options. Which way of life is better? Who can really answer that question?
When I have conversations with my girlfriends there’s not one time where the question of the age comes up. Most of my girlfriends are single while still debating on what to do with their life – so what? Everything will happen when the time is right and I strongly believe that! I’m not saying it’s not important to set life goals and find ways to achieve them, all I’m saying is we need to let go of that age issue, or that expiry date that somehow flies over our head.
Happiness for me is everything. Although I didn’t choose the easy path (aka after finishing my Masters I could have easily find a job in my field and get married blablabla) I am more than proud of the woman I have become today. I am madly in love (wedding will come eventually hehe), working everyday for a job that sets my creativity free and exploring the world one city at a time. Being positive and talking about my future projects is what keeps me going. We need to change our conversations now girls and the rest will follow!
Here is the video I was talking about with SK-II. Again, it’s been a while since I haven’t see a movie speaking that directly to me. Not only it is super motivational but it’s also amazing to see that the brand is working towards changing the mentality. In Asia, only 2 out of 10 women feel comfortable with the idea of getting older…let’s work together in the idea of raising this number up to 10 in the next years 🙂 Let me know your thoughts xo
Blog post sponsored by SK-II but all opinions are mine.